Then we had our own 8 children and before we knew it – the subject of girls, boys, love, and marriage came up. While it’s tempting to try and tuck love into some tidy box, it will never work like that. Rather than depending on someone else’s “step-by-step”, listen to the Spirit and how He is guiding. The world wants you to think that your happiness depends on finding the perfect guy – or girl. If you are a believer in Christ, then your joy is found in Him. Read the classic love stories found there, follow the instruction of the New Testament, and don’t forget the wisdom found in the book of Proverbs. As it turned out, a few months later I reluctantly agreed to go on a “blind date” and knew immediately that I’d met the man I would marry. So that’s as close as I could come to “marrying without dating”. True love can be amazing, but it really doesn’t “fix” everything. Even the Bible talks about “the way of a man with a maid” as too wonderful to understand (Prov. Observe them in different contexts – work, home, leisure – and ask others what they see too.
One of these days I’m going to share our love story because that man of mine? Lisa is the happily-ever-after wife of Matthew Jacobson and together they enjoy raising and home-educating their 8 children in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.
We pray and trust God to watch over him and over her – both before and after that lovely wedding day.
My husband and I pray most every day for the future spouse of each one of our children.
So make sure you’re both involved in some kind of healthy community of friends and family. Please promise me you’ll ask the opinion of people who love you and you look up to?
It’s easier to be blinded by love when there’s no background to reveal his/her true colors.
Go and get involved where the kind of people you might want to marry are hanging out. DON’T cultivate a relationship apart from community. If you’re a Christian, then you are given specific instructions about your body (1Thess. She encourages women to embrace the rich life of loving relationships and the high calling of being a wife and mother. Physical attraction is natural and has a beautiful place in God’s design for a man and woman, so commit yourself to waiting for the right time (marriage) and the right person (2 Tim. She’s also rather fond of dark chocolate, French press coffee, and deep friendships (though not necessarily in that order).That’s what I told our family friend who was concerned that I wasn’t dating at the age of 26. It’s just that I found the whole dating scene rather depressing. So one solution to this dilemma is to avoid the subject altogether and remain single. And yet I’m still not a great fan of dating – especially “recreational” dating (). Our young people aren’t too enthusiastic about either of these options. And that’s when we discovered the concept of and I thought all our problems were solved. So just for the record – while there are many benefits to courtship – it does not answer all the questions.