Anyway, I try to think about what you’ve said about your wife, how at the beginning she wasn’t the type of girl you were used to dating…And I’ve followed every step you talk about when it comes to her, “to be cool, calm, and collected…”From day one, this guy and I had a great chemistry, in the sense that we truly enjoy each other’s company.He is the one that calls me (even if I’m like dying to call, I wait for his call,) he is the one that talks about seeing each other and so on…
(As far as I know, I’m the only person he’s dating.) He told me that it wasn’t supposed to happen that way nor was he supposed to feel so comfortable around me! So I just smiled and avoided getting too deep in the subject as I noticed he was a bit stressed over it.
I remember what you said about your wife, that she never asked where you guys were headed…
I know you are super busy, but I’ve come such a long way, and I’m so proud of myself with all the changes I’ve made since I started reading your newsletters, that I don’t want to do or say the wrong thing here. I’m genuinely thrilled that you’re seeing positive changes in your love life since you started reading.
And I chose your letter out of the hundreds of emails I get each month because I find it infinitely more challenging to take on a situation that is not at all black and white.
In fact, I’m guessing every one reading this has been in the exact same position as you, with the same exact question: “How long do I invest in a man before I panic that I’m wasting my time?
” And try though I might, this isn’t something that can easily be reduced to a simple science, because each individual man has his own unique set of issues.What I will remind you is of the newsletter that I wrote less than six months ago, which proclaimed, “Ignore the Positive, Pay Attention to the Negative.” What I meant by that is that millions of women have willingly entered into passionate affairs based on their feelings alone – the breathless waiting for his call, the physical need to touch him, the giddiness he inspires when you’re together, etc – all the while, conveniently ignoring the fact that he said at the very beginning, “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” So he feels like he’s off the hook because he told you the truth at the outset, you forget that he doesn’t want to be anybody’s boyfriend because of how you feel when you’re together, and one day, when you start to wonder where things are going, he reminds you of that conversation you had in your first week where he laid down the law. There are a couple of very reasonable answers to this question, but the primary ones are: 1) It’s in his best interests to treat you well.I’m 30 years old, divorced with no kids, smart, pretty not only on the outside but on the inside too (so people tell me,) very family oriented and have great values.I’ve followed your advice from A to Z and GOD HAVE THEY HELPED!!!!But now I’m extremely puzzled and need your advice.Less than a month ago, I started dating a guy who, according to my mother, I shouldn’t even be dating because he’s “way too good looking” and “guys like that” don’t like to be in steady relationships.