How many times do you find yourself idealizing a guy without truly seeing him for who he is, but rather as a projection of your own fantasies?I know this is a bad habit of mine, and one The List has helped me to break.
In an attempt to break the cycle, one of my single friends -- who's beautiful, smart, hilarious, and an extremely savvy and successful businesswoman -- decided that it was time I make a list.
Her rules: if a potential significant other has more than two red flags (doesn't meet two of The List's criteria), then I move on right away, wasting no more of my time.
The beauty of the list is that even though some of the criteria might seem obvious, it's there in black and white, with no potential shades of grey.
Right is like unearthing a treasure fit for a princess.
The idea of itemizing qualities in a person we find attractive gives off the impression that dating is somehow mechanical, women are too picky, or that we've lost our faith in romance.
Well, I'm here to bring back The List, sing its praises, share mine, and The Lists of my closest male friends (wouldn't you like to see what men are looking for in women? In most areas of my life, I've played by the rules.But when it comes to dating, I find myself time and time again taking risks with reckless men.This time of year, everywhere we look, we're encouraged to make a list, check it twice.Whether it's for things we want or to tally the things about ourselves we resolve to change, The List is an end-of-year staple.But when it comes to our love lives, the idea of The List is full of negative connotations.We're told love is blind, seduced by "Our eyes met, and we just knew" tales and enchanted by the idea that looking for Mr.